Good Intentions vs God’s Best
We’re women, made in the image and likeness of God, redeemed by the blood of our Lord Jesus. We’re compassionate, caring, giving and helpful…it’s just who we are. There’s nothing wrong with wanting something great for others, but do our good intentions line up with God’s best for them?
While this principle can be applied in so many areas of our lives, let me share the lesson that God recently taught me. Have you ever found yourself suggesting to your husband that he should pursue a certain career field or job? I have. You learn a lot about a person after being being married to them for nearly 20 years. I, like Bruce, know what he’s good at, what his strengths and weaknesses are, what we need financially, and the good potential he would have in certain jobs. From this knowledge, my love and my desire to see him reach his full potential, I offer my suggestions. So, what was wrong with me wanting all these amazing things for my husband and our family? Nothing, unless it limits what God’s best is for him. Did you see anything missing in my approach in giving my husband advice?
My error: Where is God? What is His will? What about Matthew 6:33 and Proverbs 3:5-6?
My lesson: While recently praying and asking God to help Bruce get a job, I discovered this… God was saying to me, “You want what is good for him and your intentions are good, but I know what is best for him. I love you both. I long to give you both My very best. I want to bless you and others through you. Will you trust Me with him and his future?” Wow, I had no idea. While I was seeking for good potential for him, God was wanting to bring about His purpose in Bruce’s life. Humbling. While I think I know what is best, God does know what is best for us.
My error: I was encouraging Bruce to go a certain direction and to accept certain jobs I believed were great for him and for us as a family and while my intentions were good, it doesn’t mean they were God’s best for him.
My lesson: As a result, I surrendered Bruce and his future to God. When I’m tempted to offer my opinion, I seek God first. Truth is, who knows better than God the path we need to take? Good intentions are good, but are they God’s best? It has to be His will not mine, but to find His will, I need to seek Him for it. By seeking Him and His will first, I can reach past my good intentions and reach for God’s best. Time will reveal how well I learned this valuable lesson. 🙂
We love our husband, family and friends. We only want what is best for them…good intentions. While good intentions are good, if we want what’s best for those we love, if we want to see them go from potential to purpose, we must seek God first. We can also lift them up in prayer and ask God to reveal to them the answers and direction they seek.
We are blessed to journey through life with others and from time to time they may seek our counsel. I believe by seeking God first we can have both good intentions and God’s best in our hearts as we offer them our humble advice. As I was reminded recently, we can trade our thoughts, will and emotions for His, helping us to reach past potential and toward His purpose. Perhaps this is a step towards operating less in our flesh and more toward wisdom and being the women that God called us to be, for the purpose of blessing others and bringing Him glory.
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