Title:The Marriage Bed: Can The Marriage Bed Be Defiled?
Author: Frank Hammond
Publisher: Impact Christian Books
Back Cover: The Marriage Bed
Can the Marriage Bed be defiled? Or, does anything and everything go so long as husband and wife are in agreement with their sexual activities? Author Frank Hammond provides helpful advice on how to keep the Marriage Bed pure before the Lord. Drawing from God’s emphasis on purity and holiness in our lives, this booklet explains how to avoid perverse sexual demonic activity in a home. Issues covered include pornography in the home, oral and anal sex, adultery and more. Learn what defiles the marriage bed, and find principles for a righteous and favored marriage life. “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled.” (Heb. 13:4)
Book Review: The Marriage Bed
The Marriage Bed is a must read for all believers. There is a very real attack on families today and one of those battlegrounds is in the bedroom, in our very beds. Frank Hammond asks the questions that we have, but don’t want to voice. What we do in every area of our lives will either honor God or the enemy. We must realize that the enemy has no boundaries of his own, there are no areas that he finds sacred and off-limits. Those are boundaries set by God and by the authority given to us through our Lord Jesus.
This book hammers it out. The battleground has been set, the soldiers assembled, the war wages and the casualties are evident in the broken families and homes. The turning from God’s ways to the ways of the world. Are these worldly ways opening doors that we don’t intend them to?
The book contains the following:
- What Defiles the Marriage Bed
- A Legal Right to Demonic Spirits
- Unnatural Acts Come Under Judgment
- The Benefits of a Holy & Pure Marriage
- When Husband & Wife Consent?
- “Go and Sin No More”
Has this really crept into the body of Christ? Here’s a quote that made my heart sink:
Once the door of sexual perverseness is opened, there is no end to where it can lead. This fact is well illustrated from the report that came to me of a pastor who counseled that oral and anal sex are “Okay.” He went on to say, “If the husband and wife go so far as to want to use whips, chains, or handcuffs, as long as they are in agreement, there is nothing wrong with it.” Sadomasochism! The derivation of pleasure from the infliction of physical or mental pain either on others or on oneself” (Webster). Can one imagine anything more contradictory to the Spirit of Holiness and the gentleness of Jesus Christ? It is sad beyond words to see professing Christians fall into agreement with the degraded morality of the world. We as Christians ought to set an example of integrity and purity. 1
The battle wages on, daily. The question is, whose side are we on? Who is our Commander and Chief? This can be answered by answering a very simple question, “Who do we take our marching orders from?” If we are unsure, we can ask if the things we do, even in the privacy of our bedroom, honor God or not?
My thoughts about The Marriage Bed
In researching for my upcoming books, I’m running across various books that I believe are helpful for us to have in our armory today. We can keep pretending that there is not an evil spiritual force that’s out there trying to take out as many of God’s people as possible, but I have to ask, if we are not at war…why did God take the time, space and words to pen the armor of God that we find in Ephesians 6? He is not one to waste anything, because He is perfect in every way. So, if He took the time to let us know that we indeed are in a spiritual war and has provided us with not only our defensive weapons, but our offensive ones as well, shouldn’t we come into agreement with Him?
For some reason, we can be led to believe that what happens behind closed doors is no one’s business, but the thing is, we are not our own, we’ve been bought and paid for…at a very high price—the shed blood of our Lord Jesus. What we do, even in secrecy, will either bring Him honor or it will honor the enemy…there are no other options. So, some—especially within the body of Christ—may need to sit down with their spouse and ask some really tough questions, being honest with our answers and ready to repent from anything that has occurred that did not honor God. The good news is He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness2 and there is no condemnation in Christ.3
We must remember that our body is the temple of our living and holy God and what we do with our body, we do with His temple, in which He dwells continuously…promising to never leave nor forsake us.
This book is very direct and while it is seasoned with love, sin must be called for it is. I believe Hammond has seen enough of the devastating effects of sexual sins in his deliverance ministry and knows that the trumpet must be sound on this battle front…to call God’s people out of the ways of the world and into the sacred and sanctified ground of marriage.
In these last days, the enemy is ramping up to take out and de-activate as many of God’s warriors as possible. The casualty pile is reaching an all time high and yet, the enemy wants more…he wants to take out every last one of us. We know that won’t happen, for if nothing else, God always preserves a remnant that pursue Him with their whole heart. Will that be me? Will that be you? Will it be our family? Our church?
This is not the time to turn a blind eye to the things we may be doing to dishonor God and drives a wedge in our relationship with Him. This is the time to ask the Holy Spirit to shine a very bright light on everything in our lives that is not of God and honoring to Him. It’s time to heed His beaconing and ask for not only forgiveness, but the strength to turn away from everything that can lead us down the wrong path. Meaning, all things…any and every. single. thing. that can open doors to more influence to the demonic in not only our lives, but the lives of our family.
There is no such things as innocent sins…that’s an oxymoron. Sin—in its very nature—has no ability to be innocent, so let’s get past that lie and move to higher ground, where we can fight the good fight more clearly and effectively. What we do in our bedroom, alone or with our spouse—or God forbid another—matters, believing otherwise only lends to the opportunity for the enemy to sow seeds of further destruction that we may not see the fruit of until it’s done it’s damage to us and our family.
I believe there is nothing in this book that will shock the believer reading it, but then again…. If we’ve been fed a lie long enough, we may not be seeing certain things that we’ve allowed into our lives (and bedroom) for the sin that they are. Books like The Marriage Bed can be used by the Holy Spirit to shine the light we need to see it all more clearly.
The last days are coming to a close…how soon, only God knows, but for certain, each day is one day closer and it’s time for us to get back into the fight and help to set our fellow laborers and warriors free too. We need all the faithful hearts we can get in the days ahead of us. Simply because a husband and wife mutual consent to an ungodly action, of any kind, does not take it from sinful to holy…sin is still sin and holy is still holy, even if the matter is agreed upon by two people. Simply because a husband and wife choose to agree that they believe it’s okay to partake in sexual sin, doesn’t make it any less sin or a perversion of God’s will. These actions can also create ungodly soul ties between us and our spouse (or, God forbid, another).
Any agreement between husband and wife must be in agreement with the spirit of God’s Word. Agreement to act contrary to God’s Word by defiling the marriage bed can never be justified in God’s sight.4
I wish I could have the blessing to say that I’ve walked uprightly, all my life, in this area, but the truth is many things were introduced to me, while still in elementary school, that opened so many doors to demonic influences. I share this to say, I know the struggle and battle is real, but I also have the blessing of walking in freedom today, the freedom that Jesus provided for me (for all of us that will receive it) and I long to help my brothers and sisters to see this same amazing freedom…to get, as many as possible, out of the clutches of the enemy. As I continue to research for my upcoming books, I will share what the Holy Spirit leads me to share, for the teaching, correction, equipping, arming and edifying of Christ’s beloved bride…who He longs to return to gather to Himself.
My prayer is that by sharing this book, that God will help us to walk faithfully with Him, with our spouse and honor the blessing He has granted us in our marriage and family. Sexual sins can be generational and they can open doors today that can hurt our family in ways we never intended. So, it’s to us, God’s chosen and peculiar people, His children, to hear the call of our Commander-in-chief (or as I sometimes like to say, our Commander and Chief-our leader, who calls all the shots), come out of the enemy’s camp (bed) and get back to the path God has prepared for us.
Would I Recommend The Marriage Bed
Yes, absolutely! This is a timeless book, sadly. I mean it’s sad that such things are waxing worse and worse as time progress on. The subject of sexual matters seems to be taboo to discuss among believers, so that leaves the world to teach the right and wrong of such matters…yikes!
I believe this is a book for new believers and more mature believers alike, as well as young and old. For married, singles and definitely for newlyweds (I wish I had this at the onset of our marriage or before that). I don’t believe that there is a group—within the body of Christ—that can’t use a strong refresher of what is considered godly in the bedroom and that what we do behind closed doors, may be closed to the world seeing it, but never will it be closed to God seeing it…as we do such things with the body He bought and paid for and dwells within. I don’t know about you, but that shed a new light on anything the enemy tempts me to do.
Know that God is ready to forgive and wash away any and all repented sin with the perfect shed blood of our Lord Jesus. We need only ask and receive His forgiveness. After 21.5 years of marriage (at the writing of this blog in January 2018), I can say we’ve made many, many mistakes (in and out of the bedroom) and God has been faithful to forgive us of all our sins and has cleansed us from all unrighteousness. And I trust He’s ready to forgive all that will humble themselves before Him and trust He alone can help anyone desire to live by His holy standards to honor Him and our spouse and family.
I believe that unclean spirits rarely travel alone. We may think we’re only sinning a little in this one area, but know that we are likely opening ourselves, our spouse and family up to more demonic activity than we realize. Then we can’t understand how spouse, children, or self get involved in any number of other sexual sins or various other sins of anger, rebellion, theft, lying, murder, addictions, etc and can lead to depression, anxiety, fear, etc.
My prayer is that as you read this book, take to prayer and ask the Holy Spirit to help you see what must be weeded out of your bed and life, so that God can plant seeds of such a love between you and your spouse that the world could never compete with it. Once God is allowed into this area of our lives and given dominion over this area as well, then we will see and feel things we never dreamed possible….rooted in such love, it defies comprehension and imagination.
And, that’s a wrap…The Marriage Bed
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Rather, let the marriage bed be filled with pure love, for “Love does not act unbecomingly. Love [God’s love in us] does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking” 1 Cor. 13:5, Amplified Bible.5
On a positive note, when the sexual relationship between husband and wife is kept holy, pure and godly it will produce the highest possible enjoyment and satisfaction. This is altogether consistent with the nature and ministry of the Holy Spirit.6
1 Frank Hammond, The Marriage Bed: Can It Be Defiled? (Impact Christian Books, 2014), Kindle locations 162-168.
2 1 John 1:9
3 Romans 8:1, though the verse does go on to say, “who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.”
4 Frank Hammond, The Marriage Bed: Can It Be Defiled? (Impact Christian Books, 2014), Kindle locations 143-145.
5 Ibid. Kindle locations 124-126.
6 Ibid., Kindle locations 160-162.